Welcome to Moth to Flame: A Sanctuary for Your Self-Love Journey

You’ve spent so much of your life putting others first. Being the reliable one. The strong one. The one who pushes through, even when you’re exhausted.

But deep down, there’s a quiet ache—a longing to feel truly seen, valued, and worthy. Maybe you’ve questioned whether self-love is even possible for you. Maybe you’ve tried, only to find yourself slipping back into old patterns, making choices that don’t honor the woman you want to be.

I see you. I am you. And I created Moth to Flame because I know what it’s like to wake up one day and realize you’ve lost yourself.

Self-love isn’t just bubble baths and affirmations, it’s the radical decision to stop abandoning yourself. To stop settling. To stop waiting for permission to live a life that actually feels good.

This Is Where Your Transformation Begins

Moth to Flame isn’t about surface-level self-care. It’s about becoming the woman who unapologetically chooses herself even when it’s not always easy.

Through personal stories, reflections, and practical tools, I’ll help you:

✨ Break free from negative self-talk and reclaim your voice
✨ Set boundaries that honor your worth—without guilt
✨ Heal from past wounds so they no longer define you
✨ Build unshakable confidence from the inside out
✨ Cultivate habits that nourish your mind, body, and spirit
✨ Step into a life that feels aligned, empowered, and yours

Because self-love isn’t about changing who you are—it’s about returning to who you’ve always been.

You are not too broken. You are not too late. You are not too much.

You are a flame—brilliant, powerful, and deserving of a life that reflects your worth.

Let’s fan that flame together. 💛

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I’m Jaleela, a 40 something single mom of one son, who started my self-love and healing journey over ten years ago. The seed that was first planted was a former lover’s response to ending out casual relationship. As I cried on the phone he told me “you broke your own heart”, it would take years before I understood he was right. Years later, married with a young son, I found out my husband cheated, and knew our marriage was over. Overwhelmed with fear of him abandoning our child the way my father abandoned me, kept me stuck in a relationship and life I didn’t want but was terrified to let go.

I started my journey with reading a book and implementing one of the tips he suggested of constantly repeating the affirmation “I love myself”, and slowly my thinking/mindset begin to shift and I started to prioritize myself, and it’s lead to a peaceful/amicable divorce and co-parenting, letting go of anger, hurt and resentment cause my parents, forgiveness, losing 70lbs and keeping it off (most of it), overcoming divorce, eviction, getting a beautiful apartment, tripling my salary, and more. I’ve been addicted to personal development for almost two decades, constantly learning and evolving, and what I want every woman to know, is what I know for sure, is that all it takes is a shift in perspective, a mindset shift to change your life. I want every woman to know she is worthy and deserving of having nice things, amazing experiences and an incredible life, even if every choice you’ve made from an unhealed space has led you to believe different.

 That’s why I created Moth to Flame—to help women like you reclaim their power, just like I did. Moth to Flame was created out of love. For single moms recovering from toxic relationships. I wanted to create a safe space for women starting their self-love journey to have support and resources to help them achieve unapologetically loving themselves.

Inside Moth to Flame, you’ll find thought-provoking blog post on self-love, personal development and mindset, personal stories of belief, perseverance, self love exercises, free resources, challenges all focused on you achieving the best version of yourself.